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  1. 'Tis The Titillating Tuesday Tumblroonies Troop:
suicideblonde : naimhe : ofpigtailsncombatboots
zengiraffe : lickypickystickyme : beefranck
redjeep : thedame : hotheadred

    'Tis The Titillating Tuesday Tumblroonies Troop:

  2. Well, hello there, gorgeous … 
thedame
beefranck
suicideblonde
pigtailsandcombatboots
nameyourgod
accuratelyawesome
andthentherewasglitz
isay
notyouraverageharlot
… yes, even you isay, you wonderful man, you.

    Well, hello there, gorgeous …

    … yes, even you isay, you wonderful man, you.

  3. The Welcome to Monday morning herp derp brigade members … 
beefranck
naimhe
mikesnosense
pocketcontents
derpycats
mrsbadcrumble
missdisgrace
thedame
suicideblonde

    The Welcome to Monday morning herp derp brigade members …

  4. Today’s troop of interpretive dancers are … 
dougsnewtumblelog
redjeep
thedame
beefranck
inmi
redcloud
nameyourgod
mathcat345
hideyourluvaway
May your trees be swooshy, your exclamations of anger pop and your happiness fleet of foot …

    Today’s troop of interpretive dancers are …

    May your trees be swooshy, your exclamations of anger pop and your happiness fleet of foot …

  5. Le tumblrs que j’adore d’aujourd’hui:
roger-explosion
notactuallyme
beefranck
thedame
exit417
nameyourgod
redjeep
taraceebee
aimee-b-loved
  6. Today’s midweek winners of the moob motorboating passes are …
beefranck
redjeep
redcloud
zengiraffe
exit417
notyouraverageharlot
thejohnblog
fistaphobia
thedame
The line starts to the left and buckets are available on the right … 

    Today’s midweek winners of the moob motorboating passes are …

    The line starts to the left and buckets are available on the right … 

  7. Tuesday Morning Tumblr Crushes:
thedame
redcloud
zengiraffe
titsandsass
redjeep
indefensible
beefranck
aimee-b-loved
suicideblonde
  8. How to say hello and not harass someone.

    I want to give people the benefit of the doubt. I like to believe (regardless of the countless pieces of evidence to the contrary) that people have benign intentions and are misinterpreted as malignant due to the actions of a few bad seeds.

    I hope that when someone tries to reach out and make contact with other people, they may not be aware of the effects of their own actions. So, I’d like to share my own limited experiences.

    One thing that has always been remarked about me by others - my partner, friends, etc - is the seemingly magical ability I have to talk to people and touch them.

    Physically, that is.

    Total strangers are seemingly fine with me putting my hands on them without calling it harassment.

    The truth is that it’s not that simple. I have had to learn to read signals. More importantly than that though is I had to learn what signals I was transmitting. This isn’t always easy. A sincerely innocent pat on the shoulder is what you may have intended, but failing to notice that blocking the escape route and encroaching personal space turned it into a moment of harassment.

    How do I “get away with it”? Personally, I have some strong rule sets I follow to ensure I do not give off the wrong signals — I look for clues to show me that they are ok with the contact. Some are just plain common sense, others may require a little thinking beyond autonomous breathing, but the results are worth it.

    First and foremost - approach someone from the front. Don’t come up behind them, don’t rush at them from the side. Let them see you and get their attention gently. I ensure there is ample personal space and an “escape route” for them. I “test the temperature” by touching “safe” areas like the back of the hand, elbow or shoulder and judging the reaction. Further, I will not touch someone if they refuse or cannot make eye contact and I also refrain if I feel even the remotest sexual attraction to someone. 

    Simply put, all of these rules are part of one single rule - treat people with respect. 

    How come I never get accused of harassment? Why do I “get away with it”? It’s because I am not being a dick.

    If someone accuses you of harassment when you were “just trying to say hello”, then I would question your own actions in leading to the confrontation. Further, the easiest way to diffuse it is to step back and apologise. It’s not hard to achieve if you maintain respect.

  9. Current Tumblr Crusheroonies:
thedame
redjeep
pufflepie
jennlevo
blanddiva11
fistaphobia
atsirhc
sunnybucket
winifredjay
Like a bag of allsorts … of awesome.

    Current Tumblr Crusheroonies:

    Like a bag of allsorts … of awesome.


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