The chairman of the World Health Organization’s AIDS meeting declared that male-dominated societies are a health threat across the planet. When masculinity is built around a violation imperative, when male identity claims a right to access and dominate…
Are facts less important than conversation starters?
I was raised to believe that one keeps their mouth closed until they had all the facts.
“It is better to remain silent at the risk of being thought a fool, than to talk and remove all doubt of it”
A few comments hit me over the last week that has inspired this post. The first was something that occurred at my partner’s workplace, where a manager used a supposed near death experience in their past to justify their need to achieve and be a…
* the global game of chair reshuffling has finally stopped with the musical envelopes reset for another few months at least
* bank is still screwing around with paperwork, at this point they almost have enough paperwork to steal my identity … twice
* working on a tender at the moment, my head is fine … my patience with those who do not read the statement of requirements is not
* my daily curmudgeonly quota is being reached far sooner in the day than it used to … and far sooner than I thought was possible
* I’m of the opinion that if Douglas Adams was still around he’d agree with me that politicians should all be put on the second ship …
* While we are at it, lets throw in the members of PETA and Animals Australia too
* Do I get a prism account? I’m thinking it could be a great personal search engine
* Maybe we can get a benign, fascist, all-knowing, star-trekian computer NSA voice system as well? Maybe we can call it SIRIously?
Regardless of the flavour (i.e. racism, genderism, ageism, etc) it’s not always about the letter as it is about the spirit.
Or to put it another way, it’s not about WHAT was said/written so much as HOW it was meant.
- Scene: Office. Colleague, who may indeed be part of OfficeBoy's sources of inspiration, slides over to me conspiratorially ...
- Male Colleague: I think I blew $1.4 million on that project
- Me: You blew who for $1.4 million?
- MC: No, I ...
- Me: Yes, I heard you.
- Female Colleague: What are you two whispering about over there like little schoolgirls?
- Me: Oh, he's just regaling me with stories of his sexual exploits
- FC: Really!?
- Me: Yeah, I'd repeat them to you, but I doubt you're interested in fiction ...
- MC: Hey!
- FC: Sounds about right.
Boys will be boys … especially when drinking is involved. Mind you, I have also seen the same type of behaviour from a group of women in the same state of inebriation. Whilst not excusable, human nature is,well, primal, and that is not contained to
That said, an aspect of people watching I have noticed, is that (imbibed nonsense aside) that people do fall in love with people who they click with. You’d be surprised how far a laugh, a chat and just the ability to really listen to what someone is saying actually makes that click happen over any primal based short term stupidity. Or maybe its only something that happens as we get older?
What I’m saying is - you might be surprised who you click with. Or something.
- Scene: dinner and drinks with friends. Bunch of male colleagues are getting all excited and whispering to each other.
- Me: What's that about?
- Female Colleague: They're all discussing that cute young waitress and whether they would "go eat there"
- Me: Huh, not "would she consider any of our pathetic selves?"
- Her: Surprisingly, no! How about you? Would you "eat there"
- Me: Presuming you mean, she came and offered?
- Her: Ok, sure
- Me: Well, I'm in a relationship, so I'd be flattered, but would regrettably have to say no.
- Her: Pooper. Ok, so let's try it another way, if you weren't?
- Me: Well, so you're asking "If you were younger, better looking and single, would you go ask her out?"
- Her: Yes!
- Me: Well, then I think I'll find I still won't have a chance - but, hey, at least I will be younger, better looking and single!
- her: *snorts*
No wonder their previous purchases went under …